Yesterday I was wrestling some things out that felt like a weight over me.
I’m in a new season of leadership, on a level I never asked for, but God has clearly directed me.
And oh my goodness, I have so much to learn!
That acknowledgment is key!
Recognizing the truth that when we are moving into new heights, we often times don’t know what the heck we’re doing.
I phoned a friend…maybe 2. Ok, 3 people.
Each of their perspectives and insights spoke into my wrestle until God unlocked something in me that became my launching pad to victory!
I couldn’t see what God was doing.
My emotions, and the fact that I’ve never been here before, was clouding my vision. I was missing what God was trying to do in me as well as through me.
I’m sharing this because culture and social media leads us to believe the “strong ones” are the one who make it. What most don’t see is the community of strength that’s standing alongside them, and behind them.
They can’t see those moments of wrestling things out and being honest that “we don’t have it all figured out.” They only see the outcome of our wrestle, the strength that produces from it, leaving the masses feeling weak and inadequate because they “just can’t measure up.”
It’s just not true!
I have purposely and intentionally surrounded myself with a team of people that are strong, godly, and have wisdom that surpasses me.
Because that kind of support calls me out, and calls me higher!
Building this kind of community was not passive or by chance either. I had to put myself out there and make sure that I didn’t only surround myself with people that made me feel comfortable, or say things that make me feel good about myself because I’ve only shown them my strengths. It’s fine to have people look up to you but if that’s all you have in your life, well, that’s a whole other can of worms. I’ve seen too many leaders remain broken messes behind the scenes, keeping every body at a distance so no one can see their struggles. They’ve deceived themselves into believing that they have to have it all together and they can’t let anyone know they don’t have it all figured out. I’m sorry but they are stunting their own growth as well as the ones placed under their leadership.
You cannot give and produce what you don’t have for yourself. Jus’ sayin’.
I continually choose to surround myself with people who love me enough to call me out, but not judge me in my weak moments, and they come alongside me when I’m unable to stand on my own.
Being transparent and honest with safe people who have proven that they want to see me succeed in life, and those who are willing to tell me the truth when they think I’ve gone off course is VITAL, and keeps me in a continual forward motion.
God designed us for community!
We were not designed to have it all figured out on our own, or to hide out and isolate reading a bunch of books, blogs and posts to “gain knowledge”, but never have those close relationships that challenge the growth to produce.
So much pride develops with those mindsets, and pride will ALWAYS block us from growing to our fullest potential.
We can so easily fool ourselves into believing we’re farther along than we are and that’s a dangerous, and destructive mistake.
It’s to our benefit when we invite people to see us in full transparency so that we can actually be challenged to grow and mature, developing solid, godly character that is REAL and not manufactured!
God has those iron that sharpens iron relationships to place in our lives that chisel away the junk, and sharpen our swords so we can continually rise!
In order for this growth transaction, we have to have a willingness to face truth, invite someone in as we take a look at our own hearts, and admit that we need help.
Humility (not to be confused with a misunderstanding of our identities or victim mentality) and the willingness to ask for help, wisdom and insight is the key that unlocks true growth.
Build your community, and cultivate a kind of growth that will set you up for life!